Are tired of always mediating between your siblings, or your parents. Keeping the peace only works for so long, and you are EXHAUSTED.
Are moving your relationship forward into your next chapter but you’re afraid that your parents won’t approve your decision. You long for the freedom to chart your path but you feel obliged to honor your parents’ wishes (and also worry how your family might perceive you).
Have been trying your whole life to serve your parents and bring them happiness after all they’ve done to come here. They don’t talk about the wars, internment, or displacement, but your bones know it’s real. But their expectations haven’t caught up to this decade, let alone this century, and you’re over explaining the new ways.
Were feeling settled about you and your partner’s decision to not have kids, but you’re starting to name your childhood dysfunction and now you’re re-evaluating the decision. What really matters to you, and why? Are you avoiding out of trauma, or because this is what you truly want?

Navigating the holidays with a bit of trepidation–on edge, waiting to jump in and keep a surface peace.
Frequently irritated at your parents for “respect your elders” comments (or non-verbals) but also feel guilty for feeling that way
Feeling the tick of your biological clock as you re-contemplate having kids. It’s taking up mental space and you’re having a hard time planning the future. How to decide?
Vacillating between complying with your parents’ wishes and a deep-seated desire to move far away and just do your own thing.

How therapy for generational trauma works

Waking up and focusing on your goals for the day, not just appeasing everyone else’s desires.
Confidently speaking up about your opinion with your family members, even elders.
Slowing down and being present with what your body is telling you. Honoring your limitations and not feeling guilty.
Feeling more confident and freedom to rewrite your family script. You don’t have to repeat generations of the same behavior.

Slow down, breathe and notice your sensations without judgment.
Gently tap in resources that reinforce your strengths.
Get real about what you actually feel and set intentional boundaries to care for yourself.
Settle into a pace of deeper listening to yourself–all the feels you had to bury to appease your elders, parent your siblings, and caretake your partner. Honor all the different parts of yourself that show up because they are telling us valuable information about what you need.
Dig deeper into identifying what you believe about how to live: not just reflexively doing what’s expected in American culture or your family of origin, but finding what resonates with you.
Recognize and reprocess with EMDR core beliefs that aren’t serving you anymore. Re-wire your neural networks with positive beliefs that capture the nuance of your hidden resilience.